True Friends

So I’ve been requesting and receiving questions lately. This is yet another one. Please feel free to contribute…

Question:

Who is a true friend?

Before we can fully comprehend the meaning of true friendship; we must first discern who a friend is and if their is a clause in that definition that permits for fake- Something that is not true.

This in itself will imply that we have understood the meaning of truth; to be able to identify fake.

In defining these two terms- Friend and True; we’ll be able to accurately answer the question of who a true friend is.

Friend

“This is a person who you know well and who you like a lot, but who is usually not a member of your family”- Dictionary.cambridge.org

The Clause
This definition like any other talks about a one way relationship that should go both ways. Yes this definition applies to your friends to, but the questions is, do they consider you friends?- for then, and only then, will this definition be accurate.

A lot of people that we are friends with aren’t friends with us.
A friend is not just someone in whose life you are involved in, a friend is someone that is involved in you life- Double ST

True

Something that is in accordance with fact or reality. Accurate and genuine.

  • True Friendship therefore entails mutual understanding, agreement, respect, growth, etcetera.The key word there is mutual. We often think “people knowing us” is synonymous with “true friendship”, but no. Answering phone calls or replying text messages doesn’t make you a friend- it just means you respond to INITIATED CONVERSATIONS from someone that considers you a friend. Friends are initiators as well as people that respond to messages (In whatsoever form). Friendship has to be MUTUAL. It is however not a competition on who does more.
  • A true friend triggers the buttons that make you want to be a better person. A friend adds value to your life and vise versa. What this means is that, if there are people whom you call friends in your life and have successfully kept you stagnant or regressing, then they are not true friends and must be acknowledged as such. It is OK to know them, but not everyone needs to be your friend.
  • A true friend knows the advanced setting of your life and would never judge you but will always be ready to correct and support you in love.
  • True friendship is not jealous nor will it cause you to sin and vise versa.
  • A true friendship is a group of people of similar attractions and connections. A people that can coexist without altering their vision, mission and core values. A people that share ideas and want to see each other grow, and would allow each other grow.
  • A true friend is not someone you form a bond with so they can help you, but what kind of friendship would it be if they (or you) have the opportunity to help and withhold it.
  • True friendship is real, honest and loyal.

The list goes on and on and www.google.com might be able to provide you with much more information on the idea of true friendship. What I have done is set a platform for you to ask yourself if you are a true friend. It’s not enough to want genuine friends- Are you one? Do you listen? Do you make out time for friends? Once again, Are you a true friend?

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God has Forgiven You

Recently I was asked two questions that I think resonates with a lot of people, and so, I want to share it with you guys- my amazing wordpress readers and subscribers. It’s on forgiveness. I hope it’s a blessing. Please feel free to ask any questions you might have.

Question 1

Does God forgive a consistent sinner that constantly ask for forgiveness?

This is a deep question. I often fall guilty myself, so I can understand the frustration that comes with it. I am excited by the honesty in this question because it shows someone who is finally ready to receive help. Help that has been freely given to us all.
In answering this, the number one and most important thing to note is that God is faithful. Faithful not because of who or what we do, but because of who He is. However, the Bible says in Romans 6:1, “shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound?” Certainly Not. Truth is, in the context of the question above, It is easier said than done. Repeating the same thing over time becomes a habit and habits are not easily broken.

Can God forgive? I think this is a wrong question. God does not forgive, God has Forgiven already always and forever. This He did on the cross.

Hebrews 9:22 And almost all things are by the law purged with blood; and without shedding of blood is no remission (kjv).

As Christians, or in becoming Christians, we walk into this forgiveness. When we pray for forgiveness, we ask to walk into that which God has already done.

The reason why God does not want us to sin is because of what that does to us… The guilt, the shame, the lack of peace, the hurt… God does not like seeing his children broken, unsettled and unhappy.

Question 2

What can a Christian do to help such a person?

To help such a person, you have to be truthful, loving and realistic in your approach.

Romans 5:8 But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us (kjv).

Romans 5:9-10 Much more then, being now justified by his blood, we shall be saved from wrath through him.
For if, when we were enemies, we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son, much more, being reconciled, we shall be saved by his life (kjv).

Bad (and good) habits are built up with consistency and these bad habits must be broken down with consistency.

I do not know the specifics of the sin we are all guilty of, but if we are to stop it, it’s not an on and off situation. It has to be consistent, intentional and genuine. Then replaced with something else that is positive. It is not enough to stop doing evil, you must start doing good.

Some Pointers for Whosoever is Guilty

  • Let the person accept truthfully that what he or she is doing is wrong and genuinely confess to God. Not because of guilt but because he or she loves God.
  • Ask God to come into his or her life or rededicate his or her life.
  • Find an accountability partner, someone he or she respects, someone that will not judge them, someone that is willing to listen to them patiently and can get achievable targets and punishments to keep them in check.
  • The person might need to change friends, or whatever the trigger is. Trigger is what causes you to sin, it could be your phone, movies, what you hear, where you stay, Etc.

For example, if as a youth leader, I am sexually attracted to one of my fellowship members (female), I should never visit her without another female around, or better yet, I should alway send a female representative any time there’s an information for her.

Saying nothing will happen is the reason why a lot of things are happening currently.We must find our triggers and destroy them as we allow God to gradually renew our minds.

  • Pray, Read God’s word, Surround yourself with positive and like-minded people.

These were my recommendations to the person that asked for her friend. Please feel free to add your contributions. God bless us all as we learn to forgive and receive forgiveness. Amen.

Oluwatosin Olabode aka Double ST.

Insights 

Great News… 
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I’m super excited to announce to you that you can now Pre-order my new book #Insights at your favorite online stores. Follow the link above. 

I’ve got you covered whether yours is IOS or Android… We are currently on:

Barnes and Noble,

iBooks,

Kobe, 

24symbols,

Overdrive, 

Tolino

Here’s a thought on #Insights;
‘It’s a book that will appeal to all who seek to view life from different angles while seeking for solutions in handling life’s challenges and turning them into opportunities’ 

                       Batet Musa.
Here’s the link…
https://books2read.com/DoubleSt
Let’s spread the word. Share and tag.

With regards, 

Tosin aka., Double ST

Insights

New Book Alert! #insights #2018 Watch this space…

Titled ‘Insights’. This book is a collection of quotes. A reminder that all things work together for our good in (and at) “all times”. The quotes run for 365 days; so as with scriptures, we live daily with a positive outlook on life.

‘It’s a book that will appeal to all who seek to view life from different angles while seeking for solutions in handling life’s challenges and turning them into opportunities’

The use of simple Language makes it a delight for the heart’.

Let’s show some love and join the author in spreading the word.

 

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Stop Assuming

They say the problem begins when we start talking about each other instead of talking to each other. 

It’s more of a problem when we start talking for each other, instead of talking with each other.

Assumptions, however right, create one-side solutions to one-side situations.

Stop assuming and ask them.

Walking in GRACE !!! Teaching d TRUTH-

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